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Becoming a mistress
to a married man is not something to enter into lightly. There are no
"right reasons" to induce someone to engage in an affair with you. But,
most often it is the married man who does the inducing. If he loves you,
and you love him, he should simply separate and divorce his wife to be
with you. But sometimes that is not the best thing for everyone. If he
isn't prepared to do that, then rest assured that he loves his wife, and
you are someone dispensable. Do not make the mistake of equating sex
with love. Therefore, don't assume that if he is having sex with you, he
loves you and doesn't love her, when the complete opposite can be true.
Men can love their wives and sleep with someone else. Having an affair
with a married man is not a game. It is a commitment with a very high
price tag. People can, and usually do, get hurt.
Steps
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1Question your motives very carefully. If you find a mutual attraction with a married man ask yourself if you really want to pursue this relationship knowing that you will spend holidays alone and that you will always take a back seat to his family. -
2Be discreet. Realize that if you do anything to cause his wife to discover your secret, he will only hate you for it and you will likely lose him. -
3Be prepared to have to work harder than his wife to hold onto him. You are dispensable. She is not. She gets half his assets if they divorce. He has worked hard for what he has attained and hates the thought of losing it. His kids need him, and if he is the kind of man you think he is, he will not want to hurt his children. -
4Make your time together unforgettable. This means the fun, non-committal things such as mind-blowing intimacy, indulgent fantasies, and listening when he needs to talk. These are the things he wants from you. Be his fantasy girl. He has enough reality in his life. -
5Grant him the unconditional love he desires. If you really want to hold onto him, you must accept that commitment is not to be. This does not mean you become a doormat. Long-lasting affairs are built on trust, intimacy and respect, just as any good relationship is. Usually long-term affairs are affairs of the intellect as well as affairs of the heart and body. -
6Keep some personal time and space. Make sure he understands and respects that you have a life outside of him. You are not his servant; you are his respected lover and confidant. -
7Manipulating, threatening to disclose the affair and childish games and antics only make you look immature and threatened, and certainly aren't attractive. They will only serve to make him question why he's hooked up with such a nut case. -
8Although you are probably insanely jealous of his wife, resist the urge to demean her in front of him. First of all, there is no need - after all, YOU are the one trying to take something that isn't yours, so you're in no position to judge her; secondly it makes you look catty and insecure. There is no reason to be angry at the wife for being what caught his eye FIRST. -
9Imagine how you would feel if someone slept with your husband, the father of your children, and put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself why you are doing something so painful and tearing an innocent family apart...the term home wrecker was invented for a reason. -
10Look for the love that you want and deserve in a relationship that is HEALTHY and has PROMISE - this one doesn't. He won't leave her for you...you are second best and need to accept that position...or you can just go and find love the traditional way.... -
11Don't break any hearts!
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12Be aware that in this day and age of violence, that if the offended wife finds out, your life could be in danger. Are you willing to risk this? Are you willing to be exposed to everyone that you know that you are an adulteress? Be mindful that a jealous woman researches better than the FBI. She will find out and expose you.Source: wikihow.com
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